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I'm Holly, a 52-year-old mother to two great teenagers and owner of one very hairy dog! 

​I consider myself a decent human, normal if there is such a thing, average intelligence, certainly no formal legal training, so when I made the very difficult decision to split from my husband after 15 years, little did I know that I would end up representing myself in my divorce.

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​This means I was acting as a Litigant in Person, I had no formal solicitor to represent me, fill in any of the legal forms, submit them for me or attend my final appointments in court.

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​Why? Because I had no money to engage a solicitor. The money that I had initially at the start of the divorce process had simply ran out.

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Did you know that an average solicitor will cost you between £125 - £175 per hour! ​

 

My divorce process started in 2021. It finished in April 2025! ​ Yes, that's right, it took four years for our divorce to complete.

 

Please don't get the impression we were fighting over huge amounts of money or assets. We were just an average family. But when you're faced with one party being unreasonable things can soon spiral out of your control. At the start of my divorce I spent £14k on legal fee's - Looking back I'd estimate that I could have saved at least £8,000 by having access to pack like this. 

 

Throughout those four years there were so many times that if I'd had a little extra knowledge I could have saved myself so much stress, time and money... Here's an excellent example I can give of one of those times from my own experience... ​

 

I hired a solicitor to help with my divorce. She listened to my situation and offered some very basic advice and charged me £1,500 for it. After taking the payment and getting me to sign the forms to engage her, she informed me that she wasn’t qualified to represent me in court. As the case progressed and court involvement became necessary I was forced to find a new solicitor who was qualified.

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I had to start all over again — repeating EVERYTHING I had already discussed, re-explaining the details, and essentially paying twice for the same groundwork.

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That initial £1,500? A complete waste of money!

She knew court was a likely outcome, yet took the fee without disclosing her limitations.

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So here’s your first tip:
If you're consulting a solicitor, always ask if they’re qualified & willing to represent you in court. ​Consider that your first £1,500 saved.

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Why did I create this resource?

​This guide was born out of personal experience. I’m deeply passionate about helping others avoid the confusion, stress, and costly mistakes I faced during my own divorce. Whether you’re the husband or the wife, I don’t want anyone to feel as lost or as unprepared as I once did.

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This downloadable pack offers practical advice, guidance, and highlights key pitfalls to avoid — especially if you're considering divorce or are in the early stages of the process.

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What this pack offers

• Clear explanations of the UK divorce process, in plain English

• Tools to help you get organised and stay focused on your financial future

• A structured approach to help you plan with confidence

• Resources that WILL genuinely save you money​

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You’ll be better equipped to handle the process — whether you choose to go the DIY route or consult a solicitor.

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A Word of Caution: Not all solicitors will explain their limitations upfront. Some may charge you significant fees for tasks you could manage yourself.  This pack empowers you to ask the right questions and make informed decisions.

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Yes, the legal system is complex, and yes, professional legal advice is necessary at certain stages. But with the right preparation, you can reduce your reliance on expensive services and avoid paying for basic tasks you’re perfectly capable of doing yourself.

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This guide costs less than an hour of a solicitor’s time — yet it could save you hundreds, if not thousands.

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It’s designed for people like you and me — not wealthy, not legal experts, just everyday individuals trying to move forward and rebuild their lives.

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Please Note:
This pack is based on my real-life experience with the UK divorce process.
It covers standard Male/Female divorces and does not yet include same-sex marriages.